Most likely failed resolution attempts of the past dance before their eyes. Like them, you might have lofty goals of your own but scoff at the idea of New Year's Resolutions. The most common goals that most have are around getting more fit, losing weight, and eating healthier. Or possibly writing the next great novel.
And yet year after year most people fail at these goals. Why?
I believe it's because most people put too much pressure on themselves. They also take on too much, too fast. The sheer amount of change they try to attempt becomes overwhelming. Initially they may have enthusiasm that gets them started on their path to health, wellness and a six pack.
However the amount of changes they're attempting to make become overwhelming and usually within three weeks they've gone back to their previous ways. Each time this happens, there can be a sense of failure. Which means...
How many of us actually commit to the blood, sweat, and tears to get more. Sadly most of humanity settles.
For jobs they don't want.
Relationships that bring them down.
Habits that are robbing them of their vitality.
It's so sad. Most people go to their graves without ever really experiencing their full potential. I don't mean that in some weird new-agey way. I mean that sincerely.
Full confession: I was coasting along a few years ago, not really passionate about anything. I had a good life, but I have to admit there wasn't much that got me excited. I was married to a great guy, we had all the trappings of success, but really there wasn't anything that got me fired up. And most people would say that's okay.
It was only after my husband passed away suddenly from a heart attack that I found my true calling. I discovered that I really want to help people get healthy and live their lives on purpose.
Why? Because the person I loved more than...
Everyone wants to do amazing things.
Well maybe not everyone, but most people want more from their lives.
What stops most people from achieving great things?
Fear. Doubt. Perfectionism.
For some reason, as soon as we become adults, we want to either be amazing at something in the first five minutes, or we don't even attempt it.
This goes for learning a new physical skill, writing a book, starting a business, working out again after many years of non-activity and many many other things.
A couple of years ago I learned a magical phrase from one of my teachers, Marie Forleo. I'm not sure if she coined the phrase but she's definitely the first person I've heard say it.
Progress not perfection.
These three simple words can help you a thousand fold in your life. They can free you from keeping impossibly high standards for yourself, and instead lead you to focus on a goal one step at a time.
These three magical words will change how you look at life.
First off, I think it's much more powerful to say HELLO 2020, BYE BYE OLD ME!
My thinking behind this is that if I don’t ditch the old version of myself first, the grand new vision I have for my life won’t have a fighting chance at becoming my reality.
All those old patterns will resurface as soon as the holiday high is over and those January blues set in.
Can you get behind that?
Of course there’s work involved here. Healing, forgiveness, letting go.
It is my firm belief that anyone, anywhere, at any time, can decide to change. You can choose to let go of behaviours, habits and relationships that aren’t working and create something new from a place of wisdom.
It may not be easy, in fact I can tell you from...