This isn't my saying. Mel Robbins, famous for her book The Five Second Rule, said it first. She's completely right.
Motivation is garbage because you're never going to feel like doing the things that are necessary to create the life you want. It's literally not how your brain, or my brain, is wired. Your brain wants to protect you from anything that's scary, upsetting or outside your comfort zone.
What's outside your comfort zone?
ALL YOUR DREAMS! ALL OF THEM!
Want to get fit and healthy? Outside your comfort zone.
Want to build a business? Outside your comfort zone.
Want to travel the world? After COVID obviously. Outside your comfort zone.
Anytime you get a new idea or want to switch up what you're doing chances are you hesitate. That momentary hesitation sends a stress signal to your brain. Then your beautiful brain gets to work to protect you. It has a million different ways to protect you. One of them is called the Spotlight Effect....
Paleo. Keto. Carnivore. With each new trend there are recipes, books, Pinterest posts, Instagram influencers. Usually the benefits of each trend is touted and many people jump on board hoping to create better health and ripped abs.
Is every trend healthy? What diet trend should you follow? In this blog I go over some of the more popular diet trends and some of the health risks that are related to them.
The Paleo diet is a hot trend, but it's not a new eating plan. This diet emphasizes foods and beverages that would have been the only means of sustenance for humans in prehistoric and pre-agrarian times -- fruit, vegetables, nuts, and meat. It eliminates processed foods, along with sugar, table salt, caffeine, legumes, and dairy.
The pluses with Paleo is that it eliminates processed foods, sugar and dairy which means it reduces inflammation. The downside is that some versions of Paleo people have too much meat or have...
Is it just me? Didn't think so.
This past Saturday my cat of 11 years went out to explore and so far she hasn't come home. She's an indoor/outdoor cat and goes out almost daily to check out where the wild things are. But she always comes home. Except this time she hasn't come back (so far).
It's really upset me. I am in tears. I miss having her around and know her daily routine as well as I know my own. I love my companion animals as I love any person in my life. I felt waves of grief and overwhelm come over me. The worst part of her being gone is not knowing what happened to her, if she's okay and if she'll ever come back. As much as my heart hurts for her, I'm reminded once again about how impermanent life is. That no one we love belongs to us. We're always in flux.
Having to say goodbye without actually knowing if it's time for goodbye. Or the worst is having to say goodbye when you don't want to say goodbye.
My phone rang. I answered and was met with a panicked friend demanding to know where I was right that second. I told her, wondering why she was so distraught. In a rush of words she told me that an animal rights activist friend of ours had been killed. She wanted to make sure I wasn't at the scene where it happened.
There's no way life prepares any of us for this kind of shock and devastation. Most of the time many of us in the West are blessed to be able to walk through our days sheltered from severe trauma and Grief. But sometimes awful things happen. There's no choice but to face them, hard as it may be.
I'm writing this blog to share some of the ways that I move through Grief. I always use a capitol 'G' for Grief because it is a big thing. It makes many people uncomfortable and it's not discussed in polite company. I want to share my tools so that when you encounter loss you can move...
True story. Most people either breathe too shallow, restrict their breath or simply forget to breathe.
Breathing, especially deep breathing, can have profound affect on how you feel in your body. Shallow breath puts your body in a state of fight or flight, also known as the sympathetic nervous system response. However deep belly breaths helps your body kick into a parasympathetic nervous system response, also known as rest and digest. Ideally you want to live your life in a parasympathetic nervous system response state as much as possible. It turns out that your body also absorbs nutrients from food better this way, thus the digest part.
In this week's video I'm sharing some breathing techniques to help bring your stress levels down. You can practice these techniques first thing in the morning or right before you go to sleep. It'll definitely help with a deeper more restful sleep. These are also breathing...
Everything that's been going on in the world is a wake up call. I have faith that this is a grand awakening. We're all a part of it. All of us need to stand up to oppression where ever and whenever we witness it around us. Supporting Black Lives Matter and other organizations that are working on raising awareness and advocating for system change is something we all need to support.
As I've marched, spoken to my black friends, witnessed and heard their pain I've started to think about how important it is to build a strong foundation of health in order to support others.
The ability to hold space for others, to hear the pain in their voices, share in their heart break requires that we ourselves are of strong mind and body. In this blog I want to share my top tips for how to boost your own health so that you're able to help others.
Remember when we used to be able to fly? I remember those days. Before...
Me too. I've been emotionally drained. But I know that my emotions are nothing compared to what those in the black community are experiencing. I've been speaking to my friends and listening to their pain.
This week I'd like to share some information that I hope helps. “Injustice for one is injustice for all.” – Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Here are eight ways that you can fight racism in your community:
1. Learn to recognize and understand your own privilege.
One of the first steps to eliminating racial discrimination is learning to recognize and understand your own privilege. Racial privilege plays out across social, political, economic, and cultural environments. Checking your privilege and using your privilege to dismantle systemic racism are two ways to begin this complex process.
However, race is only one aspect of privilege. Religion, gender, sexuality, ability-status, socio-economic status, language, and...
Is it just me? Didn't think so. People do some pretty shitty things.
I didn't realize it but for many years I carried around the shitty things that had been done to me like a badge of honour. This person did this, someone else did that. My feelings were hurt, lines were crossed, it wasn't fair.
I'd have long internal conversations with myself about how I had been wronged. It was wrong and people suck sometimes. I wanted to cocoon myself and never come out.
Then I started to do some spiritual work. The very first book I read about this kind of 'spiritual stuff' was Gary Zukov's 'The Seat of the Soul.' A light went on for me. I realized that if I wanted to change my experiences I had to start to embrace forgiveness. I had to let go of anger.
Wanting to do something and actually doing it are two different things. I took baby steps in self evolution. I practiced forgiveness here and there. Then I went to do my...
I get it. These are the strangest of strange times. I had moments in the early weeks where I straight up wanted to scream. Moments of complete anxiety and overwhelm. Days that were far from productive, where I was spinning my wheels.
I didn't make myself feel bad though. I reminded myself that none of us have a guide book right now. We're simply doing our best.
I went back to a practice I learned from a healer several years ago, at a time when I had days where I felt like coming out of my skin.
This simple but powerful practice helped me move through a very difficult period in my life. There are several ways to ground but I'll share the one that I practiced at the time.
The theory behind grounding is that it affects the living matrix, which is the central connector between living cells. It uses the electrical charges from the earth to affect health. Electrical conductivity exists within the matrix that functions as an immune...
The last time I ugly cried I was truly brought to my knees. I remember where I was in my kitchen ugly crying. It was early days after my husband had passed away suddenly from a heart attack. I was still in a state of shock and unable to manage my emotions from moment to moment.
There I was curled up into a ball on the kitchen floor completely distraught. No one was with me. I felt completely alone. Somehow out of the ether two questions floated through my mind.
How is this helping me? What's next?
These two very simple and basic questions became the foundation on which I built my new life. It's very humbling to be in a completely broken state and ask how is this helping me? When we're in an emotionally fragile state our ego doesn't want to look inwards.
But being at your most raw and...